There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.

—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.

—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

A lot has been happening in my life in the past few weeks, from small home repairs and a mini-vacation to various family members visiting, my older child starting kindergarten, and—as so often seems to happen when everything else is unsettled—a big uptick in my editing and management work. “When it rains, it pours,” I’ve heard people say my entire life. Well, they’re not wrong.

Of course, for the past couple of weeks, Mercury has been retrograde, along with Mars, Saturn, Pluto, and Venus. I admit that I don’t know a lot about astrology but that retrogrades bring up a lot of opportunity for us to examine various parts of our lives. A good approach is usually to slow down in whatever part of your life is governed by the retrograde body and to consider carefully rather than act hastily. At least that’s the way retrogrades tend to play out in my life—so it’s fascinating to me that so much has been “stuffed into” my life during these retrograde periods. And also of course, in the energy preview for this month, my guides told me that in August, we’d be going through a birthing process and we need to stay positive for the best outcome.

The thing is, I know that theoretically (and realistically), I chose to take on the work, to work on home improvements, to allow visitors in my home, and to send my kid to school, so you can say I have no one but myself to blame for the apparent insanity. The thing is, as I’m a very organized person, with routines to help me keep a pretty regular day even amidst apparent chaos, these weeks should—again, theoretically—have been possibly challenging, but they should not have been as exhausting as they have been. (Well, maybe they would have been. I had no idea when scheduling all of these things that any planet except Mercury was going to be retrograde, and I have long experience dealing with Mercury retrograde, given that my specialty in life is in various aspects of communication—especially trying to ensure clear communication.)

My point here (I think) is that though much has been happening in my life, these things that have been happening have been tremendous learning opportunities and chances for reflection rather than for rash action. All of the events were planned ahead of time [Have I ever mentioned I love to plan?], so by the time they finally arrived, all that remained was the actual doing of them. When something “went wrong” (deviated from the plan), I was offered a chance to reconsider my approach, and sometimes just a chance to relax and be in the moment.

For example, my husband and I took our daughter to an amusement park for her birthday again this year, for a day devoted entirely to her, with all of our attention entirely on her, without being split with her brother or our usual responsibilities. Despite my careful planning and usual attention to detail, we arrived at the park TWO HOURS before it opened. Rather than despair or get upset, we took the opportunity to look at the bright side: We had a premium parking spot right next to a picnic shelter, and that shelter was situated on a small lake, so the three of us simlpy sat enjoying the early-morning peace and quiet in the shade of the picnic shelter, watching the local wildlife. In fact, one of my favorite memories of the entire day is of seeing my husband and daughter standing side by side on the edge of the lake, looking out above and into its depths.

On another day during this very busy period, I opened the channels wide so I could ask my guides a specific question and very clearly hear their advice, but before I could ask the question, they gave me some unrequested information about a completely different topic. The topic is very sensitive and emotional for me, and the information from my guides was provided as a prediction, an unequivocal statement of fact, leaving no room open for interpretation. On top of this, I found the information troubling. Naturally, I was left wondering what on earth I was supposed to do about/with that information.

I’ve been considering that information for three weeks now. Despite life being so busy, in nearly every quiet moment I’ve had, my thoughts have returned to the issues raised by that information, rather than to whatever mundanity my thoughts would usually turn to. I have turned the information over and over in my mind, trying to examine it from every possible angle, trying to figure out the implications of what I’ve been told. Trying to determine what I should do with that information—if, indeed, there’s anything I can do with it.

As is so typical of them, in the multiple times I have asked my guides what I should do with this (or why they have told me), their responses have been either silence or cryptic—er, more cryptic than usual. [The guides of intuitives—at least in my case—tend to give much clearer answers to use for other people but are a little more tight-lipped when we ask for ourselves, which is one reason so many intuitives, psychics, etc. themselves use the services of other intuitives and psychics.] And this leaves me slightly envious of my fellow intuitives who have guides who nearly always give them straight yes-or-no answers. My guides almost never deal in absolutes. Of course, that’s what’s so frustrating in this case: I was given an absolute pronouncement, yet when I ask for clarity around why I received such a pronouncement or what I can do about it, they’re even more cryptic than usual.

I mean, honestly, what the heck?

My emotions about this have bounced around like that little metal projectile in a pinball machine. I’ve been scared, angry, peaceful, grieving, calm, resigned… Being familiar with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s work, I have come to recognize through this process that I’ve been experiencing grief surrounding the information I’ve been provided—though nothing has yet happened.

In trying to puzzle out the situation, I’ve asked the community of intuitives to which I belong if they have had similar experiences and, if so, if they believe they were given such information so they could prevent the thing from happening or prepare for the thing’s happening—or for some other reason entirely. As I rather expected, the responses I received were as varied as the people in the community. After all, we are all different people, we work from different perspectives, and we and our guides have chosen to work together for very specific reasons, and often in very specific ways. What the responses all boiled down to was that it’s really up to me to decide how to respond and interpret the message, based on my previous experience with my guides.

Over the past few weeks of pondering, I had come to a realization. Leaning into the discomfort of the information that my guides had given me, I had finally resolved to try to act the best I can in light of that knowledge. I have sat back and tried to look at it from all perspectives, asking what each perspective means from the vantage point of my behavior, and asking, “If this is definitely the outcome, what can I be doing to ensure that such outcome turns out as positively as possible for everyone involved?” When I consider it that way, I see that if I behave in the way that would ensure the best possible outcome given the undesirable result, that behavior is actually the best behavior in any situation, including if the final outcome changes from what I’ve been told.

Ultimately, then, what I’ve been doing is giving extra thought to the way I typically live my life with regard to this particular aspect—and then acting in the way I know I should always be acting anyway. This bit of information from my guides “simply” helped bring into sharp focus for me how my real behavior was not matching up with my ideal behavior and how, with just a little—well, a lot, if you consider all the sleep I’ve lost to this issue—extra consideration and focus, I could really achieve that ideal behavior and outcome.

I still have no idea whether what my guides told me is one of those things that is 100% definitely going to happen exactly the way they told me—or if it’s something that will change in some way (or not happen at all) based on some way that I respond—but I’ve finally determined that it doesn’t matter. After all, if I can change the outcome, I have no idea exactly which behavior would change the outcome—or even whether it would change the outcome favorably or unfavorable (a topic that many movies and books dealing with time travel have tackled). The only thing that I can fully know and control is my behavior, so all I can do is the best that I possibly can, by being more mindful and thoughtful, so that no matter what happens, I have done all I can do for the highest possible good of all involved.

So, I really have benefitted well from the greater-than-usual number of planetary retrogrades, lunar and solar eclipses, and new events in my life. Already in the first two weeks of the month, I’m starting to see the birth of a better me.

 

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